Most conversations can be divided into two broad categories: Casual or Critical.
Casual conversations tend to be a free exchange of ideas between people who are comfortable to express their unfiltered emotions and to engage with others without any sense of encumberment.
The dynamics of casual conversations are easy for everyone, potentially entertaining, generally extemporaneous, and an “as-is-expected” experience for everyone.
It’s not uncommon for casual conversations to subtlety convert over time or to suddenly change into critical conversation without much warning. The signs that such a shift has occurred can be detected in the dynamics of the conversation. The greatest of which is an expression, usually through cues, clues or signals, that someone is experiencing a problem.
At this point, you know the conversation has shifted from casual to critical and in turn our need to express empathy to the other becomes an essential behavior to practice if we wish to to create a connection, continue our connection with the other or help the other solve their problem by carrying out a critical conversation.